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“I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”
These vows sound great, doable…what one should want to be to and for a spouse.
So what in the marriage goes wrong?
The usual ups and downs are granted but why do people divorce? Do we ask ourselves why we get married?
Is it possible that other marriages failed because it was their marriage but based on other people’s terms or expectations…generally very other-centred? I have never been in a marriage but think it wise to set your own Terms of Marriage. Writing your own vows would be a good start… that way you say what you mean and mean what you say.
Not so? and other dynamics for consideration? *comments welcome*
MindMyMind 
I found thee most beautiful and accurate definition of what marriage means to me, “Marriage is a ministry where two people are committed to serving each other.”